1:1 COACHING FOR THE MIDDLE SCHOOL YEARSBe the calm she comes home to.
You've read the books. Tried gentler methods and firmer limits. Nothing has stuck. That's because what's driving the conflict isn't your parenting style, it's the pattern between you. And it's exactly what we work on, starting with you.
It's time for a change. We'll figure out together if this is the right fit.
27 years as a child & family therapist LPCC Registered Play Therapist Supervisor Certified Theraplay Practitioner
IF THIS SOUNDS FAMILIAR, YOU'RE IN THE RIGHT PLACE
A successful, capable woman sat across from me. The kind who runs teams and solves hard problems all day. She looked at me and said, "I think I'm a terrible mom."
She wasn't. She was a loving mother whose daughter had gone quiet on her, and every attempt to reach her was ending in a closed door. If you've felt that particular ache, the one where you're doing everything and still losing her, keep reading. This is the work I do.
THE REAL REASON THE CONFLICT KEEPS REPEATING
When she gets big, you disappear.
Here's what I've watched happen for 27 years. The moment your daughter gets triggered, you get pulled somewhere else. Backward, into your own adolescence, your own mother, the things you never quite made peace with. Or forward, into the worst version of the future, the one where the two of you never find your way back.
Either way, you've lost your footing. You're reacting from somewhere else. And the mom your daughter actually needs in that moment isn't in the room.
That's not a parenting-style problem. It's not a communication problem. It's a pattern that lives beneath both, and it's exactly what we work on together.